- how do you fill your space? (eg, shoes, books, art)
- how do you spend your time?
- how do you spend your energy?
- how do you spend your money?
- what do you think about most?
- what do you visualise and dream about the most?
- what do you say to yourself?
- when you converse with others, where do you lead the conversation to?
- what makes you smile or frown?
The answers to those questions might give you a better understanding of your values. We filter our life according to our values. Anything that supports your values goes into your long term memory. Anything that does not support your values goes into your short term memory.
We all act according to our values, so in order to get someone to do what you want them to do, you have to communicate in terms of their values, not your own. No two people have the same value system. No one has more success or failure, just a separate set of values.
When we are true to our own values, we are not in competition with anyone else - we are unique. So if you love people for who they are, they become the people you love.